Transactional Analysis Therapy

Transactional Analysis is a practical tool for analysing how we communicate. Developed by Eric Berne, it suggests that every social interaction (a "transaction") is a window into our personality.

By understanding whether we are acting like a Parent, an Adult, or a Child, we can improve our relationships, avoid pointless rows, and live more authentically.

The Three "You's" (Ego States)

At any moment, you are operating from one of three mindsets:

• Parent: You are mimicking the behaviour of your own parents or authority figures (being bossy, judgmental, or nurturing).
• Adult: You are being logical, level-headed, and focused on current facts.
• Child: You are reacting just as you did when you were small (being playful, rebellious, or perhaps a bit clingy).

The Interaction (The Transaction)

Conversations work best when people stay on the same wavelength.

• Smooth: You ask a sensible question (Adult), and they give a sensible answer (Adult).
• Crossed: You ask a logical question (Adult), but they snap at you like a stroppy teenager (Child) or lecture you like a headmaster (Parent). This "crosses" the wires and leads to a row.

The Goal: "I'm OK, You're OK"

Many of us carry around "scripts" - old habits and internal dialogues from our upbringing. The aim of TA is to stop analysing the past and start acting from a place of mutual respect, where you view both yourself and others as inherently "OK."